Communication and connections are so key to our health and wellness. How can we start communicating more effectively?
99% of us live in an insane world of expectations. We move through life expecting people to...
do certain things or act a certain way, without ever creating explicit agreements together. We’re essentially expecting everyone else to be mind readers who know exactly what we need and want.
Have you ever experienced disappointment, resentment, unhappiness, and victimhood in your relationships? It’s likely the result of living in the world of expectations, not
agreements.
Agreements clearly state what we need from a particular relationship in order for it to be most successful. They’re co-created, clearly stated, and mutually accepted. Creating
agreements means having an honest conversation about what you want, and curiously asking the same of others so that you can co-create ground rules for your relationships.
Wherever you notice you have expectations of another person - lean in - and find out how to transform that into an agreement. Ask, “Can we make an agreement around that?”
Asking questions is the best way to keep a curious mindset. Kick off your questions with “I’m curious...” to instantly get into a curious and attentive frame of mind.
Here are some of our favorite questions for deepening a conversation:
● What’s been the best part of your day?
● What are you looking forward to?
● What’s the greatest challenge right now?
● How can I help you with that?
● Can you tell me more about that?
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